Authenticity, Why it Matters

By / Posted on August 1st, 2017

Anne Ellett is a certified Nurse Practitioner (NP) with more than 20 years of experience in elder living and memory care, and served as Sr. Vice President with Silverado Senior Living, an award-winning Assisted Living company specializing in dementia care.  Currently, Anne is owner/CEO of Memory Care Support, LLC, a consulting agency working with senior housing professionals as they develop state-of-the-art health and wellness and memory care programs.

In Green House homes, authenticity matters – for example, we strive to build real homes, not fake homes, not pretend homes, not places that look like a home but really feel more like an institution.  We want to create that sense of belonging, of warmth and deep knowing that we all crave.  We want the elders to feel connected to the people and the space.

Best Life supports elders living with dementia (ELWD), and here too, we strive for authenticity.  For many ELWD, their experience has been one of loss and lack of choice.  Family, friends, and professionals may respond to their diagnosis rather than to the individual person, focusing on inabilities rather than retained talents and abilities.  The opportunities for real, authentic life experiences may be taken away, justified by saying, “It doesn’t really matter, they won’t know the difference.”

Best Life understands that being authentic does make a difference to elders and those working closest to them.  We know that real friendships, real relationships are meaningful.  One of the Best Life core principles is “Elder-directed, relationship-rich living.”  Offering opportunities for ELWD to sustain old relationships as well as the opportunity to form new ones is part of a normal life, and should be part of living with dementia.

Relationships with pets can also be important for ELWD.  How many of us enjoy the companionship of our pet cat or dog?  The joy that a dog brings when he puts his head in your lap, or a kitten who runs through the house chasing a ball of paper brings a lot of smiles.  An ELWD who can assist with feeding or walking the dog, or enjoys rubbing the neck of their favorite cat knows the significance of rapport with live animal.

As I visit many care locations, I am sometimes shown a community’s “pretend” pet animal program.  There are many varieties available of these fake pets, all of them claiming to bring joy to the elder.

Best Life focuses on real relationships built on retained abilities. If an ELWD is offered a robotic pet, they may respond and stroke it, but there’s no relationship, no purpose, no bond of love that is formed.

What would be the reason for not having a real pet – a loving dog or a real cat who can be the “diva” of the home?  Do we offer a robotic pet because again, we think, “It doesn’t really matter, they won’t know the difference?”  The magic that happens between an ELWD and a real pet cannot be substituted by offering a mechanical toy.

I’m reminded of one woman I knew who had recently moved into a home and was quickly labeled as a “challenge” by the care team.  Joan yelled out frequently, disrupting other elders.  She criticized both staff and elders and refused to participate when invited to meals or engagements.

As an annual event, the home sponsored a pet adoption day by the local animal shelter.  In preparation, the ELWD helped clear the patio where the public would be coming to view the adoptable pets. On the day of event, many volunteers with a variety of dogs and cats showed up at the home and as the volunteers and pets arrived, the elders greeted each one and welcomed them to their home for the pet adoption.

Joan initially resisted becoming involved, but as the dogs arrived, she focused on one small dog who was blind in one eye and was anxiously barking a lot.  As she pet the dog, it seemed to relax and finally laid down and closed its eyes.  Joan said, “It just needed some love,” and continued to sit by its side for the entire afternoon.

At the end of the day, the dog had not been adopted and the care team asked Joan if she would like to adopt it?  The look on Joan’s face said it all.  The significance of the friendship between Joan and her dog Freddy (Joan’s chosen name for it) was evident as the months passed.  It seemed Joan found purpose and peace when she and Freddy would sit together or as she fed it some of her favorite chicken dish that she had saved from her own dinner plate.

Best Life encourages an authentic, real home where an ELWD has opportunities for a life that is purposeful and relationship-rich. learn more>>

 

 

 

 


Green House homes in Florida are Supporting Elders to Live their Best Life

By / Posted on June 26th, 2017

Anne Ellett is a certified Nurse Practitioner (NP) with more than 20 years of experience in elder living and memory care, and served as Sr. Vice President with Silverado Senior Living, an award-winning Assisted Living company specializing in dementia care.  Currently, Anne is owner/CEO of Memory Care Support, LLC, a consulting agency working with senior housing professionals as they develop state-of-the-art health and wellness and memory care programs.

The Green House Project recognizes that providing a life affirming, dignified environment for elders living with dementia (ELWD) is imperative, especially given that over 80% of people living in long term care have some form of cognitive change.   Supporting these elders to thrive is a multifaceted process, and involves culture change.  Best Life is a new initiative, designed to support Green House teams, by building on the core values of Real Home, Meaningful Life and Empowered Staff, and providing enhanced education that focus on principles such as:

  • Power of Normal – normalizing programs and environments
  • Integration with greater community
  • Celebrating retained abilities
  • Dignity of Risk
  • Age-appropriate interactions
  • Elder-directed, relationship-rich living
  • Advocacy

 I had the pleasure of delivering this guided process of implementation at The Woodlands at John Knox Village (JKV) in Pompano Beach, Fl.  JKV is a wonderful location incorporating independent living, assisted living, a nursing community and 12 Green House homes onto one campus!  Their 12 homes have barely been open a few months but the leadership at JKV has the desire to strive for excellence in helping those with dementia thrive.  Educator, Dolores Hughes said, “We feel equipped with tools to implement immediately, and also challenged to see people living with dementia in a new way. Best Life is an eye-opening experience.”

BEST LIFE supports elders living with dementia (ELWD) to have choice and dignity, while living in the least restrictive environment possible.  Often, restrictions are due to our own perceptions of the capabilities and interests of ELWD.  Typically, we are trained to see the diagnosis first rather than the whole person, which can limit the experiences and choices we offer to the ELWD.  For example, as a nurse, I was trained to label “patients” by their diagnosis, i.e., the hip fracture in Room ###, or the patient with Alzheimer’s in Room ##.

When we use labels to identify someone, that prevents us from seeing the whole person and instead we focus on their loss of abilities,   “they’re not able to ______ (fill in the blank) because they are living with dementia, they would not be interested in doing ______ (fill in the blank) because they are living with dementia.”  In BEST LIFE, we learn to look beyond losses and inabilities toward retained capabilities and emerging talents.

As professionals, it’s important to examine our own training in the traditional model which emphasizes the diagnosis rather than the person.  Are we limiting the experiences we offer to ELWD?  For example, are we restricting them, perhaps from our own bias and belief that we need to segregate ELWD for their own safety?  New research shows that there is value in offering ELWD frequent experiences with the larger community and with younger generations.

BEST LIFE has three areas of focus: Culture, Meaningful Engagements, and Health and Well-being.  An entire day is devoted to each of these topics, looking both at our own biases and misperceptions of ELWD, and also examining new research from around the globe on new techniques that are beneficial and increase choice and dignity for ELWD.

During the BEST LIFE workshop at JKV, one of the most poignant experiences was when the participants shared what they would want the shahbazim to know about them if they were living with dementia.  Aside from details such as their favorite foods or activities, the participants overwhelmingly requested that they be enabled to continue to have fun and laughter, and opportunities to try new things, and also to continue to contribute and “give back”.

There are already stories of elders connecting with life in new ways, as a result of this new focus on retained abilities and strengths. There is an elder in The Woodlands who plays dominoes every day after lunch and loves to teach anyone else, and an individual who recovering in short term rehab and plays his harmonica.  Knowing him is a priority,  and his full personality shines!    There is a new garden growing in another one of the homes—it is amazing how nature, growth and learning enhances well-being for everyone.